Are you feeling stuck in your life?
Are you the kind of person that wants to grow and move forward, but you just aren’t sure how?
Let me help you find your way through life’s challenges over the bridge to being able to invite peace and joy in your life again.
Me, my fiance Cat, and our dog, Ziggy. This is us hiking in Washington.
MY JOURNEY FROM GRIEF TO JOY
After watching my parents transition (literally, they were in front of me one minute and gone the next), I’ve learned to take care of myself and move through emotions all the way… safely and consciously to find joy waiting for me on the other side.
Losing my parents was depressing, overwhelming, sad and lonely. When I lost my dad to Hodgkin’s Disease Lymphoma the day before my 23rd birthday, I tried to move on with my life but I was repressing a lot of feelings of sadness and grief. This repression effected everything in my life. Pretending to be “okay” was not the way to actually move forward.
I took myself on a trip to Amsterdam that changed me. It allowed me to find freedom inside myself to go on. I left my corporate NYC job, and started a web design business on my own. Not too long after, my mom was diagnosed with Leukemia and 8 months later when I was 27, I watched her take her last breath. When I walked to my car that night at the hospital, I fell into the biggest depression of my life. Months after she died, I felt like I was a shell of a person… after the funeral it seemed like everyone was gone and it was the loneliest I had ever felt.
I was determined to find my way out of it, but I had no idea how.
I found myself asking the question,
“Can I ever feel normal ever again after the death of my parents?”
Being able to get to a place where I could allow joy in was not an overnight thing, but I was convinced that if I didn’t find my way through it, I would live years of my life in pain and suffering and I just felt like my parents didn’t have me so I could be miserable my whole life. We’re here to love and be loved, to find peace and joy and if we’re not feeling that way, we need to figure out what it is we need to do to get there.
I had tried everything. Grief groups, support from hospice, yoga, therapy, art… What I realized over time was only thing that these things had in common was me; I HAD to find my way through and there was no way in hell I was going to be depressed for the rest of my life!
The minute we bought our RV to drive across country when we decided to move from NJ to Portland, OR
I learned about and created tools for myself for living that would allow me the space to feel sad when I needed to feel sad and come back to allowing joy in.
When I did work on myself, I welcomed a partner into my life who loved me for me and I learned more about the things that brought me joy. One of those things was realizing that I had never lived somewhere I loved… could I manifest that into my life? After many visits to Portland, I realized that this city had everything that I loved about life: Freedom to be myself, the outdoors, bikes, beer, and support for an over all expressive life experience.
After living together for several years, we decided to from NJ to Portland, OR in a crazy cross country journey in an RV with 4 of our cats.
I would have never had the ovaries to do it if I hadn’t done so much work on myself over the years to understand and know that I deserved to be happy.
Over time and with lots of healing, I have found continued peace and joy in my life and when I don’t, I get right to work on the inside.
This is me at Lake Pleasant, Arizona on our cross country trip from NJ to Portland, OR
Feeling joy and happiness does not take away the pain of losing my parents, but I have found thousands of ways of dealing with the pain and sorrow that comes up around them.
A lot of that is using creativity and self expression.
I hope I can help you find yours.
Are you feeling ready to move forward and find your way to feeling more peace and joy in your life?
You can schedule a discovery session here to see if I’m a good fit for you.
What is Coaching?
45 minute sessions 1 x a week on a monthly basis. You should be in a place where you are ready to move beyond wherever you are feeling stuck, but just are not sure how. We can discuss where you are at in your parent loss, what you want to achieve and just like a life or business coach might help you to move forward and achieve your goals, I will, too.
I will be your cheerleader and someone who can put things into perspective for you in a way that can help you feel more freedom inside and less pain over time. I can provide you with tools and resources on your path forward.
I encourage those that work with me to use creativity and self expression to help move the emotions that get stuck inside along. I can help you figure out what that might look like.
I’m not a therapist or a psychologist, I definitely can not give advice on the law, and this is not a medical thing. It’s a life, forward movement journey and I am a support along the road. You will have some homework here and there, when I think it’s necessary, and of course we will discuss what you think you can and can’t handle when we start.
What do you get?
- Coaching Sessions (1x a week over phone, skype, google hangout, voxeet) offered in 4 or 8 week packages on Skype or Phone
- Support in your creativity, finding your voice, and finding tools to help move challenging emotions out of the body
- Creative tools and resources recommendations
- Spiritual support, should you want it, on finding ways to connect with your parents beyond the physical
- Accountability and checking in with the goals you have to help support your forward movement and growth
- A cheerleader in your successes
- Email me as often as you want throughout our time together
I’m interesting in life coaching, what’s next?
Let’s start off with a discovery session to see if we’re a good fit. Select a time that’s convenient for you below. Pricing details are below in the FAQ.
FAQ
How does it work?
We can work together on a weekly or monthly basis. We can move use chat, google hangout, Skype or use the conference call line.
What does it cost?
Sessions are 45 min long and are $95 per session. Sessions are 1 x a week at a day and time that works for both of us. The first one we do together is free.
Commitment
There is no long term commitment other than to show up. Stop at any time. I do, however, encourage those who want serious change to commit to themselves for a period of atleast 3 months, but will work with you on wherever you are at in your journey.
The sessions are pre-paid. If you you need to re-schedule, please be kind and give atleast 24 hours notice.
What can I expect?
If you put energy and time into yourself, you will see outcomes in your life. What that looks like will be up to you, but you can expect that if you put energy in, you will some kind of wonderful, sometimes unexpected results pop up in your life.